“Just be yourself” is silly advice.
What if you are rude, mean, an asshole?
The whole point of civilization is to discipline and restrain yourself.
Don’t be yourself. Be a decent human being.
And if that requires faking it, then fake it.
Categories: Wisdom
The seven stages of nafs classified by scholars of ihsan.
1. Nafs al-Ammara : The (Evil) Commanding Self or Ego (Qur’an 12:53)
2. Nafs al-Lawwama : The Self-Reproaching Self or Soul (Qur’an 75:2)
3. Nafs al-Molhima : The Inspired Soul or Self (Qur’an 91:7)
4. Nafs al-Motma’inna : The Soul or Self at Peace (Qur’an 89:27)
5. Nafs ar-Radiyya : The Contended Soul or Self (Qur’an 89:28)
6. Nafs al-Mardiyya : The Soul or Self Experiencing the Pleasure of Allah (Qur’an 89:28)
7. Nafs al-Kamila : The Perfect Soul or Self
I totally agree. My daughter is turning lesbian, she even is not 16 yet. She informed me a few days ago. She has all this in her mind from last years, it made me to doubt my upbringing.
I can’t advice her just be yourself although this is what she wants to listen. But I assured her I am with her.
I am looking for lots of help and support.
In this post-modern age, one can imagine the additional double-standards that may come from many of those who advocate this ‘just be yourself’ so-called advice.
If we take this realistic case scenario of person A and person B (worth noting person A is a bit over-pc, metro-whatever and so on)-
Person A: Hey come on, just be yourself.
Person B: okay, great, thanks, I want to a socially-conservative traditionalist family val..
Person A: (interrupts) How dare you?! You backwards horrifying non-progressive hateful man!!
Person B: but but I thought you said…..
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Is there any person who reverted from being gay, I really want the detailed advice. What made them to revert?
The best thing I have heard about the subject is by dr. Julie Hamilton
https://youtu.be/C54CIxm-w44