I asked them their reasons for leaving Islam. They all said that Islam conflicts with western liberal secular values which they now prefer. They chose man’s opinions over God’s revelation when it comes to gender roles, functions and natures (they reject Qur’anic patriarchy in favour of ‘equality’).
And the male is not like the female. Qur’an 3:36.
I pointed out that men and women are different and it would be unjust to treat them as if they were interchangeable. I gave recent examples of men identifying as women competing in women’s sports like weightlifting. Predictably the biological men who call themselves women won easily. This is unjust. Equality is a fiction.
The goal of the Shari‘ah is justice, not equality. See explanation here.
The ex-Muslims were good hearted enough to concede that was a good point. Each to his own..